Well, the next bad thing about Nepal is that it’s so easy to get married. So easy.
This is a land where arranged marriages account for over eighty percent of the marriages. What they call ‘love marriages’ is still a strange phenomenon – but gaining momentum. They just can’t understand how you fall in love before getting married. They have a popular saying here, “Marry first, love later” or a more vulgar one among the women goes like this, “The pipe (read penis) entered and love followed”.
Well, being a bidesh (foreigner) I get offered a girl at least once a week. Even girls who have boyfriends who they are going to marry, like this Newari friend of mine, have tried to get me to marry her. It happened last week. I knew she had a boyfriend, who she’s been in love with for at least one year (they fall in love here, but if the parents don’t approve, then marriage won’t happen. So it is possible for one to be in love with someone else for four years, only for her parents to force her to marry another man – who she probably meets for the first time during the wedding – and she can do nothing about it) Those in the cities especially fall in love, the lucky ones go ahead and marry their loved ones, hence they call it ‘love marriage’, and the unlucky ones are forced to marry someone else in an ‘arranged marriage’.
Okay, so this Newari girl (very, very pretty, btw) tells me, “Will you marry me?” Just like that. Out of the blue. We are talking about music, about Anil Singh and Narayan Gopal, and she just says it as though she’s asking me to pass her the salt. At first I think she is humming the lyrics of Anil Singh’s song, “Will you marry me”, but she’s looking at me with her large eyes, enchanting eyes, and I can’t resist the charm I see in her eyes.
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